What is a REAL Friend?

A Real friend wouldn't Accuse you of something you'd never do.. 
Like talking behind your back.. 
Only someone who does that, would do that anyway...
Attempting to Steal a boyfriend that you never owned in the first place.. 

Anything that makes you feel like you could live the rest of your life without talking to them again.. Would be good sign that the bitch would stab you in the back.. For sure.. and you'll be left there to fend for yourself in the end.. Don't even doubt it..

When you meet I Meet a Real Man.. I'm taking Pictures..

Real mean have Common Sense.. 

Common sense ain't hard to represent!!

If you have to ask the Question, explain what common sense is? To anyone in life..

You don't have any,.. 

Common sense is a thought before action Sequence.. Instead of just reacting like a child.. 

Because a child doesn't know what common sense is.. 

Its a shame that my 13 year old Son has more common sense than all these Busted

ass Step Children that no one wanted.. 

Example, This guy I dated, let's call him by his real name.. Hell he ain't nobody, Dre.. 

He would come over and raid my Fridge.. But he never lifted a finger to put something back into it.. 

Sooo Dre had to skip his broke ass back home.. 

I bet he'd bring a 2 Liter Soda, and drink Half of it.. Talkin bout.. I bout Sodah.. Like a big ass kid..

Get the Fuck outta here.. I ain't your Mama.. Your Mama Shoulda Raised you right.. 

It's Just SEX, You already know it..

So you're a Scientific Genius, who invented the one night stand.. As a 
First date.. That doesn't mean that you have to stay to the next day.. 

Nigga We ain't in love.. Why fake it.. Hey babe, I know that it's 3 am.. 
But, I got kids.. Can you find your way out before my kids catch a broke ass nigga with no job
walking through the house? Thank you.. LAWD


If I've never had a normal conversation with this guy now that I remember.. He was dumb as all hell.. I asked him if he read this Blog, and he said yes.. Lying like shit, because his stupid ass doesn't read..Knowing he was lying I asked him..So uh... Clevor, what did you get from my blog?
Duuuh it was Deep, and uhhh it was uh duh..  cool..
Doh!

 (This was like a scene from a hit Series HBO Box OFFICE HIT... Dumb as Fuck Incorporated
There isn't Cuddle time, there is only you going bye bye.

Let me just explain one thing, how can you grow emotions from sex alone?
Naturally, there shouldn't be any emotions.. There can't be emotions, unless one person is feeling them.. Having a naive mind.. You can easily fall in love with the idea of someone.. 
But you really need to look at the whole picture.. 
You won't feel, because you can't.. You know what it is.. But that really sucks the life out of life.. 
and that's why you should really spend more time together.. If you can't stand each other, then what the hell are you still fucking for? The thrill?
But remember, the ride always stops at the end... where both y'all dumb niggas fall out and bump your damn heads.. 

Making Love is.. a constant exchange of emotions, constantly driven from one extreme to the next.. and the end is just as good as the beginning.. 

I'll leave it at that, that mushy shit ain't me no more.. I'm kinda immune to the fantasy Bullshit.. 

That was a stage in my life, when I had a serious Problem with Crushes.. Obsessed big time.. 

I'm way beyond that now, now at 33? Dumb ass! Blurts out my mouth like Tourettes Syndrome.. 

It feels so good to get that out..,

Okay New Year New Education People!

Niggas never know when to go home!!.. I'm getting real use to it now, because when I'm ready for them to go, I'm pushing them out the door! Literally!!

This problem has been going on for months now, and I'm getting better at it all the time.. 
Ding! Times up! Take your black ass home, and hey let me help you find your things, so you won't linger around in my apartment like a scavenger stealing my time. Fuck Outta Here with that!. 

There is nothing worse than knowing that the dude you invited, is acting like he's spending the night.. Because that's when I'm in a rush to kick your black ass out.. I'll get that ery feeling, then, I'm telling everybody to get out.. 

Taken advantage of..

See I don't wanna feel bad, but Morons don't understand the concept of common sense.

Respect time, and respect boundries, niggaz are so concerned about possibly getting some, that they forget the map to get there.. I wonder what Men are thinking about most of the time.. because the goal is not easy to kick a ball through.. If the first thing is this, if a girl liked you, and was feeling you sexually.. You would have been kissed on the first night.. The End. 

If you want to be a hangout buddy, don't overstay your welcome.. Because your Welcome ain't STAYIN Fool.. 

What I need to know before dying.

Why I was put here... What is my purpose? I'm a single Mom from D.C. Focusing on reality.. The real..

There is something I'm supposed know, and with that how am I going to find out what that is..

Because I'm constantly searching for answers that cannot be answered by anyone that I know. So I'm feeling out of place.. What am I supposed to be doing? What is my life story going to look like.

Can you remember the place and time before you were born?

If we can't remember, then why do we believe in all of these stories?

Jesus.. Millions of people believe that this white guy over here is our Savior.. 

Then there are the stories that are told, and retold again.. 

Why isn't everything in plain English? Why is it so hard to understand.. 

What if the Bible didn't exist, what would we believe then?

Who would we pray to? How will we thrive spiritually?

When you get lost.

What happens when you get lost? Lost in a world you really don't have any power over?
What is life to the born lost?

In the game of life there are rules,  and when those rules are broken we are left to wonder.
What happened in the past, have you gone through this before?

It's time consuming to make the same mistakes over and over again, and worse never to have learned a thing from the past. So where do we go from here? Insanity?

We start from where we left off, and plan the rest of our lives out, otherwise you
Succumb to doom.
When the air has been vacuumed out of your life , and the pieces are all lost in translation.
We now have to motivate ourselves back into the once thought invisible human we thought we were
And continuously practice this role over and over again despite the circumstances that life
May bring. We must persevere. Travel the road less traveled and overlook the pain and suffering we may encounter..

This is the only way, there is no other way.. And loss is the battle.. Not the end all be all..
Loss is the sacrifice..

Who's Toxic and Who's Not?

Said it once before now let me say it again..

Recognize the Real.

There are 7 toxic personality traits to look for.. These are also people that you need to run from.

The Critic.

The Drainer.

The Know it All.

The Needy.

The Whiner.

The Dream Killer.

The Critic.
This person
Almost always acts like they mean well, attempting to soften a horrible blow to the stomach.
Failing to realize that you don't feel well after they've finished with you.
This is the complete fool, that wants to criticize your art, but isn't artistic in any shape, form or fashion. Nothing is ever right..but wrong my dear..and well that's it.
 There is no Constructive to this criticizm because they never planned on adding any. They are at the utmost negative top my top seven of the most Toxic. They also attempt to add third parties to side with them. They stereotype, tell you who you are, and what to do with your life.. This also depletes your energy for wanting to overcome adversity. Bringing your entire being down in the depths of depression. You start to become the critic..resulting in low self esteem. 


The Drainer.
 basically needs a therapist.. These people zap all of the energy from you as if you ran three miles after talking to them.. They all sound like The sad Donkey Eeyore..and it's the same sob story..
Lacking character, they talk a lot!! Too much, like they don't have a friend in the world to drain, but you. Boastful braggers are draining, because they talk about material possessions like broke rappers.
Worst if you offer a solution to their problem, they refuse it to continue telling the same shit over, and over.. Like a go home, and shoot yourself type of manner.. You just wanna say shut up, or get the fuck somewhere..

The Know it ALL. Dream Killer
These character is funny, he's the broke dude who's telling you how to run your business.. He knows how to do anything, and everything yet does none of the above..
These people tend to lie a lot.. Because who knows everything?

They always have to have the last word, and they make you feel stressed after a light debate over the simplest of things. They also blame you when you're upset over something that they did to you. Extremely immature, backstabbing, he or she rubs your nose in good fortune.. Tries to add a third party to agree with them. It's all about winning the debate, even if everyone feels like a loser..
These people have a darkened understanding of the world around them, when combined with a drainer trait.. I can't stand this person, because they never shut up, and they always talk over you. If you dare argue with this absent minded zero common sense type element, prepare to hang up.. Walk away, or tell them to get the fuck out,, the end. Now you have the last word..

The Needy.

This is the broke ass that bums the cigarette everytime you see them,
and then they are the ones who get mad when you refuse.. The thing I've thought about with
These idiots is the fact that you don't owe them a damn thing.. You can never ask them for
anything because they never have anything to give you.. The borrower.. That never returns..
Calls you Faking like they wanted to see how you're doing.. Only to ask you for something before immediately ending the conversation.. I mentally put myself in the position of the needy. It's hopeless  and depressing to have to constantly ask someone for everything in order to live life.. Users.. Losers.

The Whiner.
This person is extremely easy to detect.. Mainly because everytime you talk to them,
they're complaining about everything.. AKA the cryer.. Run fast..they add problems to your
Problems.. They never listen to your concerns much like the know it all..externalizing every situation, canceling themselves out of every equation.

Answer this Question.

Who are you?

A stranger who remains a stranger.

A man who never lets you in is a stranger indeed.

I come across many men who seemingly reveal themselves. But in reality they only reveals minimal amount of information about themselves. As if there was something to hide. See men have lots of emotions, but they guard them as if they could easily lose them. 

I had recently men a guy who seemed happy, joked with me and spoke deeply about what he thought about the world, and religion. But when it came to talking about emotions he changed the subject so many times to get the attention off of himself that I became frustrated with my attempts. Ok felt as if I had to trick him into revealing his emotions.

But see the more I tried convince him that he was avoiding the questions I had asked him the more frustrated I became..

I soon realized that he lacks the ability to talk about his feeling, and in doing this it created a distance between us. Like we spoke two different languages. He insulted my intelligence as if I were a child. Completely missing the point I was attempting to make before he spoke over me. 

He told me that I was acting like a man and attempting to dominate me.. One thing he told me that I will never forget is that he was abused by his Mother, moreover he was raised by his Father. He had his own views as to what role a Woman should play. 

See as long as I agreed with him the conversation would flow, but if I disagreed with him everything went down south. In my mind I was thinking.. what type of Woman would deal with this madness.. 

The answer is.. none.. He had told me that he had been single for 8 years.. 

Now eight years is a very very long time.. Almost a decade he had been single..

The thing is, he was completely oblivious of this information.

It's ironic that I always seem to bump into this type of Muslim Brother. The kind who wants to raise a Woman who's already been raised by her Father, to be his Wife.. These are always the Men who have 

Been raised by Men..

My questions are will he ever respect a Woman or look at them as equals if he was abused by a Woman, and raised by a Man.? In his eyes I was too dominant, by having my own opinion of his characteristics.. They were familiar to me... A man who really doesn't want to be known, wanting to remain there.. Just so he can remain unknown.. Negative in everyday, even his tone of voice was dominating.. 

I don't know what type of a relationship he had 8 years ago, but I bet a million dollars that it was a rocky one.. glad I didn't go far PEACE NEGRO.